Much of traditional couples therapy focuses on what we should not do – or minimizing detrimental behavior- in order to create increased harmony in our relationships. All of this attention on “Don’t” can feel limiting and frustrating for some people, and the consequence is often increased negativity within yourself and your relationship. According to a recent article in Psychology Today entitled 10 Ways to Perk Up Your Relationship by Darby Saxbe, “the happiest couples focus on do’s, not don’ts.” The article suggests that couples proactively set positive goals for the relationship and pursue them together. They should recognize the need for increased positivity and make growing those feelings a priority. In turn, this will create a happier, more fulfilling partnership.
Here is a link to the ARTICLE, in which the author provides you with 10 ways to increase the positivity quotient in your relationship, starting with the easiest to implement and most frequently advised, simply being grateful. Check out the rest of her recommendations and get started on the road to harmony today!